Why You Feel Better Around “Other Weird People"

Why You Feel Better Around “Other Weird People"

It’s not in your head. It’s nervous system safety.

You Know That Feeling?

When you're with someone and you don’t have to explain your pauses, your blank stares, your sudden tangents, or your “weird” need to pace mid-convo?

That’s not just comfort. That’s co-regulation.

Neurodivergent people often feel calmer, safer, and more “themselves” around other ND folks—not because they’re avoiding challenge, but because they’re finally not performing.

Neurotypical Environments Demand Performance

Most workplaces, classrooms, and even friendships come with an unspoken rule: “Behave how we expect, or we’ll label you.”

So we:

  • Script every sentence

  • Overanalyze every text

  • Smile when we’re unraveling

  • Shrink to fit the vibe

It’s exhausting. And it disconnects us from ourselves.

Other “Weird” People Let You Breathe

Around neurodivergent people, there’s more room for:

  • Pauses

  • Parallel play

  • Tangents

  • Unmasked expressions

  • Sharing without fear of correction

You feel better because you’re not policing your existence.

This Is What Safety Feels Like

It’s why some of us gravitate toward “weird kids,” why we find online ND spaces comforting, and why certain environments instantly feel off.

Your body isn’t being dramatic. It’s reading the room faster than your brain can.

You Don’t Need to Be Fixed. You Need to Be Felt.

The best kind of “support” isn’t always therapy or strategy. Sometimes it’s being in the presence of someone who sees you and doesn’t flinch.

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